I have tried to explain that I like Eliana and that I prefer to call her that name because it means, my God has answered. So, I call her both names, Ashtyn Eliana. As for as I know, Ashtyn has no meaning. I can pronounce it with no problem, but when my husband and I tried to remember how to spell it, we had difficulty doing so. My husband still does. That was the reason I used Eliana when I messaged my son, but it upset him because he thought I purposely ignored that her name was Ashtyn. So I now message him, Ashtyn Eliana, after concentrating so that I do not misspell it because of the misconception that I like the name Eliana because it sound like Alana, the ex.
Then, he started having problems paying his share of the rent. In fact, entire months would pass with me being the only one paying rent and he would give excuses that his employer wasn’t paying him on time. I didn’t want to jeopardize our friendship, but I let him know that it was an unfair burden on me to have to cover 100% of the rent, even though he was working. He also began letting his friends come and stay at our place, often for weeks at a time and they weren’t paying rent either. More than once, I had to tell him to have his friend move out, if they wouldn’t help with rent or other bills. His friends were typically people who had been kicked-out of their own apartment for not paying rent there either.
I had strong suspicions that he was stealing money out of my wallet, usually about $5 or $10 at a time. I had a job where I made good tips and often had cash in my wallet. I noticed that money wouldn’t “go missing” from my wallet if I put it away in my bedroom, instead of leaving it in the living room, so my suspicions were somewhat confirmed. One day, he called me in a panic. He had a family emergency and needed to catch a flight to California because his sister (who I had known from the day she was born) was in a hospital on life support. I loaned him the money for a plane ticket and he flew out that night.
I went through his room and found a flight itinerary. He hadn’t gone to California to see his sister, he had gone to Disney World in Florida with his girlfriend, with a stop in California to attend a Star Trek convention afterward. The departure date/time matched exactly the night he had flown-out. I also knew the scheduled date of his return. Needless to say, I felt betrayed. I had loved him like a brother and his sisters like my own. For him to lie to me just for a trip with his girlfriend was the ultimate slap in the face, especially since he still owed me for several months of rent.
I called his boss to ask when he was expected to return. To my shock, I was informed that he was no longer employed there and hadn’t been for months. This explained his not paying rent and why he would steal money from me. I then called his girlfriend’s parents to find out what they knew. They told me that the trip to Disney World had been planned for months, so it wasn’t a spur-of-the-moment decision on his part. They had paid for his plane ticket and the hotel room, so the money I had given him was just for spending money.
My advice, ignore it. Please do not make a big deal about it, because the important thing is whether the child and grandmother bonds. So folks are too blatant with telling folks their likes and dislikes. If your mother-in-law suggests a name and you all like it, also, why not use it. If not, you all are the parents. My other son’s mother-in-law told him with no uncertainty that she did not like the name that they planned to name her grandchild and that she did not like his name either. She felt that it was foolish the way my husband and I combined our names to come up with his name, and that is what my son and her daughter was doing to come up with a middle name for their son.