I hired a Private Investigator and the rest is history. And, I’m very glad it is and I have come to see his betrayal as a release and opportunity for a much better life : ) I also learned what type of creature I’d been dealing with thanks to the help on this site and YouTube tutorials on what can only be described as a classic Covert Narcissist. OMG, such an eye opener! I thank everyone who had written of their own experiences – it was such a commonality of what I’d also experienced. I was not alone. That’s why I will churn up the past in order to try and help anyone going through that muck and misery. Hugs.
My manager just did not like me. No matter what I did, it was not good enough. He always found fault. He was constantly trying to find an excuse to terminate me. Once, he had to travel out of town, and he called every day, 3 times a day to make sure I was at my desk. He literally called at 8:00, 1:00, and 4:55 each day. His constant complaints to HR finally led them to tell him that we were in an ‘at will’ state, and he did not need a reason to terminate me. Thursday morning around 9:30 am, on July 3rd, he called me into his office and gave every sorry excuse under the sun as a reason. I shot each reason down.
He told me I should pack up my things and leave. I calmly told him that I will leave when he gives me a valid reason for terminating me. He looked me square in the eye with an ‘eat shit’ grin and said, “because I can, now please leave.” I responded thank you, went to my desk and gathered what few items I had, and quietly left the building. On my way out, our CFO stopped me and said hello. I explained to him that I had just been terminated and wished him a Happy 4th of July. He looked stunned and offered his apologies. I looked at him, smiled, and said,’…dont’ be.
I’m going to have a wonderful 4th of July!” I went home, where my fiance (who was off for the week) and his mother were waiting. She looked at me and saw the box in my hand. She asked what happened, and I explained the situation to her. I went to my bedroom, changed clothes, and grabbed my keys. They looked at me and asked, “…where are you going?” “I responded, “tomorrow is July 4th, and we need food for our cookout!” That Monday, I filed for unemployment and enjoyed 4 day weeks. I would travel to visit my mother and had wonderful weekends.
I found a new job so quickly, I was disappointed. It was wonderful living a life without a dark cloud hanging over me, without feeling inadequate and like a failure. My old boss loved making people miserable and would joke about it. About 6 months later, a former co-worker called and told me that my old boss had been terminated, but had to remain at the company to help the auditors. Apparently, he had been reporting different numbers to state and federal agencies, and it caught up with him.
The feds originally wanted to file suit against the company, but further investigation found that the fraud was all on my boss. In addition, my former boss’ son had been arrested on vandalism charges! All I could do was laugh! I knew he fired me because he was an ass. I was too much of a coward to resign. He had no idea what a tremendous favor he gave me, and what bad karma he laid on himself! My parents had a small home business, and one day a woman came by holding an infant, looking for my parents. I told her they weren’t home, but she was welcome to wait as they had mentioned she would be by. I’ll call her Sylvia.
This happened to me two times. Well I was involved twice. The first time I was probably 8 and the kid was 13. He was riding his bike down the street and I was playing hockey in the street by myself. He rode his bike up behind me and scared me half to death. I turned around and as soon as my gaze met his my neck hairs stood up. It was just a creepy feeling. I knew enough at this point in my life to trust my instincts and my guard went up. He kept trying to chat and I gave him one word responses. He finally asked if I like playstation I said yes and he invited me over.