This was six months ago. I’m not really over it but it no longer consumes my life. I’m still with my husband and though I don’t really trust him 100%, it’s gotten better over time. I focus on school and on my children and I continue to go to therapy because, frankly, I lost my two best confidants in one swoop and I value having my therapist to talk to about not only the affair but all sorts of things that were shaken loose from the experience. I value the extra support, even if I would not describe myself as depressed at the moment. Because I kept up my therapy, I have learned not to hinge my self-esteem on the actions of others. If I found out that my husband was up to his old tricks I would be disappointed but I am confident I would have the strength to divorce him and move on. At this point, I would say that my faith in others has been damaged but that I am going to be okay.
I gave my mother-in-law gifts for Mother’s day, her wedding anniversary, birthday, and Christmas. It seems like she wanted my husband in her sick mind to play the husband’s role in her life which my husband refused to do. She returned all the gifts while she was incoherent complaining. This is about the most insecure lady I met in my whole life who happens to be Irish-American. Not friend, but my current husband’s step-mom (soon to be ex step-mom) doesn’t like me at all. She reminds me a lot of my ex-husband and likes to control situations and people. She manipulates to no end and is causing my father in law health issues. I’m kinda glad he’s divorcing her.