Since you are young, you don’t have any of these responsibilities. Since you are young, you don’t think about even 1/100th of what they think about every single day, just so they can give a comfortable life to their children. Not all parents do these things efficiently. These tasks and roles are very demanding that often parents just don’t have enough time to go back to their original roles as lovers. Have you scratched your scrotum in front of her due to itching? Has she picked her nose in front of you? Coming back to the point, unless and until you share a home with each other and start sharing responsibilities to make the house a home, you can’t really get to know each other completely.