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As for my daughter well she is happier than I have ever seen her. She is gaining back her self esteem from the 120 years of the greatest MLB teams Boston Red Sox thank you for the memories shirt Besides,I will do this emotional abuse from him. She has good male role models around her, who are helping her every step of the way. She tells me that the only happy memories of her childhood, only include me, and for now, she says that she never thinks about him. She is resilient and strong, so I pray that she will come out of this knowing that she is beautiful, courageous, wise, and loved! I’m proud of creating family traditions and rituals that will hopefully create lasting memories. Many of these in our family are religious (we are Jewish) and some are secular. Some examples are a regular Friday night Shabbat dinner with my sister and her family where we eat a special meal, say the traditional Shabbat blessings, and sing songs. Others are building a sukkah temporary outdoor hut every year during the Jewish holiday of Sukkot and eating dinner outside in the sukkah with family and friends for 7 nights. We also have started taking each child on weekend trips alone once a year so they each get a special adventure and one-on-one time with a parent. We have a Halloween tradition too– early pizza dinner with cousins, lots of photos with Marc on our front doorstep before trick or treating he tries to find the scariest mask he can every year so the photos are hilarious, and trick or treating in the same neighborhood every year. The list goes on. Some of my own best childhood memories are of family rituals and traditions like these and I believe they contribute to a happy, meaningful childhood. The act of repeating the same traditions every year or every week (in the case of Shabbat) brings meaning to these occasions and creates lasting, warm memories. Another thing I’m proud of is creating routine and structure for my kids very early on. I believe young children thrive and feel more secure when their lives have structure. We implemented regular nap times and bedtimes, consistent bedtime routines, healthy meals at regular times, etc. Ofcourse travel and special occasions come up but in the early years our kids daily lives are generally very structured and predictable. We also try to teach empathy in personal interactions between siblings and friends. Our kids have started to really internalize this and now ask to make baskets of food and other items for homeless men and women they see outside our local grocery store.