I would sit her down and explain why he’s not part of your life and that if he makes her happy Unicorn 2nd grade squad shirt, you are happy for her, but he is not allowed in your home or aground your family. Let her decide from there. She made her choice in full understanding of the circumstances with your family. She chose him not your family. That says enough. Your babies come first. If you had him out of your life and away from your kids then there must of been a good reason.
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