For more than two decades I had been experiencing health issues. My doctors couldn’t find anything so told me it was all in my head. My wife stood by myside for years as we went from doctor to doctor. It would take more than a decade for my two health issues to be identified. Though neither could be fixed at least one could be managed. My wife believed me and supported me.
I used to say hi to my neighbor as she was lying in a bikini poolside on sultry summer days. She was sultry. I helped take branches and leaves from her pool after a violent storm. When I was finished she asked “what do I owe. I jokingly said you pay me every time you sunbathe” she invited me in for a swim. I told her I fantasized about swimming with you. She demurred “me too” I got my bathing suit and jumped in. She said I’ll fulfill your fantasy, if you let me fulfill mine. She said “you firs” I got out of the pool and laid on my back and said now lay on top of me. She laughed and said we share the same fantasy as she left the pool, and sat on top of me. Heaven bound. I felt my fever grow. My body got warm then hot. She stood up and thanked me. I was laying in a puddle of urine
At age 20, I was driving home from work, extremely tired and suffering from jet lag after having returned from California late the night before. It was one of those days that starts out cold and heats up so I had a jacket on. I took my seatbelt off in order to remove my coat and being so tired, forgot to put it back on. My car has no A/C so the warmth made me extra tired. After the first light after getting off the highway, I fell asleep while driving. I rear-ended someone in front of me, causing her to go off the roads when her foot got jammed against the accelerator.
She hit a tree head on. I broke my windshield with my head and broke the dash with my knee. Some guy came running up to me, telling me to keep still, asking if I was alright. I just kept saying “I’m an idiot” over and over. I kept asking who I hit and how she was, never caring about myself. This man just kept consoling me, saying “It was just an accident, it’s ok.” He stayed with me, kneeling next to my open window, talking to me and never berating me for causing this accident. He stayed until the ambulance came. I was told later that the lady I hit was fine.
When I was 17 living in the Philippines, my family insisted that I had a maid because I was living alone. Unfortunately, she was younger than me. And being that I was a young teenager myself with no friends, we ended up becoming friends. I would help her cook, clean and do errands and in return she would be finished her duties quicker. Afterwards, she would come hang out with me and we would just be normal teenagers together – going to the mall, biking around the village, or just chatting about our lives.
Dad had passed away in 1978. I was a late child born in 1960 but mom was born in 1923. By the late 2000s mom’s health was degenerating. Mom ended up in the hospital and was being ignored by her nurses. My wife rust to the hospital to see that mom was taken care of properly. When it became clear mom would need round the clock care, there was never a question as to what we would do. Mom was brough to our home and my sweet wife took on the full-time job of caregiver.