I failed a lot of interviews. In fact I applied for a job with Amazon 4 times: first two must have went into the bin as the company never called back. On the third attempt I went through the phone screens and an onsite round – but didn’t get the position I was applying for. Instead they suggested to interview for a different role which I had a phone screen for and failed. And then had a fourth attempt which finally was successful. There are lots of things that are outside of your control in the interview process: the role may disappear, an interviewer misunderstands or misinterprets your answer, you make a stupid mistake, you are not what they are looking for in this particular role (believe me, it is better to be rejected than leave your job elsewhere, work in a company for 3 months and figure out that this is not for you), etc, etc. But leaving all this aside, what I try to do is focus on the things I can improve. After each interview (and not just with Amazon), I go through the interview in my mind and try to remember the questions I was asked and answers I gave. I try to analyse what the interviewer was looking for and how well I did in my answer. Often interviewers don’t make a judgement based on one question, they get a hint from one of your answers and then dig deeper, so thinking back you will most likely be able to identify the areas they were concerned with and come up with better answers. I get a couple of areas where I can do better from each interview and then work on them in preparation for my next interview.
Also a good idea would be to discuss the experience with friends and mentors – people who went through similar experiences in the past, and listen how they dealt with their difficulties. Narcissist don’t get over anything. They never have and never will care about an ex or feel for them or anyone. They can leave at any time and never give it a second thought. The words they use are only to manipulate so the reaction can fulfill their ego. They are very convincing but there is nothing in the words they say. Love is a word they know the definition of and know that we need to hear it. The can’t feel emotions like we do. They don’t care or love. They are unable to. They do know how to lie and manipulate. A relationship with one is nothing but lies. Words with no feelings. Fake. They are underdeveloped emotionally. If you are unable to feel emotions how could you love or care about someone? You can’t. That’s why a narcissist is the worst person to fall in love with. The truth that the relationship meant nothing to the narcissist is hard to accept. The whole relationship is hard to imagine it happened to you. They don’t love or care. They don’t think about an ex, in fact, they don’t think like we think at all. Their disorder is the worst in my opinion. To manipulate and lie to someone who loves you so much is heartless. That’s what they do. That’s all they can do. They do this to get what they want. Your just the supply that feeds their ego. They string you along, like a puppet. Everything from the “I love you”to “get me a cup of coffee” is said to feed their ego. They don’t give a shit about you, what you need or what you think or what you have to say. So, the answer to your question is they never were into you when you were together so why would the be trying to get over you? That question is all about emotions. They don’t have emotions. That question would make no sense to a narc. It’s just words.